When a man and a woman are married they are united together and become one flesh (Gen 2:24). God does desire us to find a partner and be devoted to one another in marriage.
“that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?” – Matthew 19:4-5
Christian marriage should last a lifetime, because
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” – Mathew 19:6
Now you have understood what marriage is according to the Bible, we will address the concern with being together with non-Christians in a relationship
Do Not Be Yoked Together with Unbelievers
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[b]? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God” – 2 Cor 6:14-16
Most pastors and churches will never agree or even encourage Christians to have a partner who does not believe in Jesus. There are many obvious reasons against it and one of the main ones is the Bible teaches about beliefs to not be yoked together with unbelievers.
- Christians believe and righteousness will be different from an unbeliever
- There will be conflicts on idol worship as Christians are not allowed to worship them
- Certain religions do not allow eating of certain food but Christians are not restricted to such religious teachings
- Parents of unbelievers usually will not be happy with Christians as some belief strongly in ancestor worship
- The concept of Jesus and God will be far different from unbelievers
- Christians do not practice or believe in superstitious beliefs but only believe in the authority of the Scriptures from The Bible.
Christians Should Never Consider Partnership with Unbelievers
Are there cases where Christians compromise their faith in God and allow such a relationship to happen in their life? There sure are many and in some cases, it is even possible for an unbeliever to convert to a Christian during their relationship. However, it can also influence Christians to leave their fate for the sake of the relationship they want.
You got to trust God and believe that if that person you desire to be with is really for you, God will make a way for it to happen and ensure that person is the person that God has planned to have that person to be with you.
Sometimes, it might be hard to let go of a person especially when you know someone for many years and you have to decide if you are to leave that person just because they have different believes and values as a Christian.
Most Christians take their faith in God very lightly, so it is very common for them to compromise and allow such relationships in the first place.
While it’s not a sin to make friends with nonbelievers, it is up to the individual Christians to be reminded in their decision to find a partner, they are to be reminded to uphold the values and things that they learn and believe in Bible.
Consequences of Having an Unbeliever Partner in Marriage
There are marriages today that have mixed beliefs. Basically how it works is each has to compromise in their religious practices just to fit and please one another. While it might seem harmless at first, it will have long-term effects on the relationship of any couple.
Especially so when it comes to traditions of nonbelievers, friends, and families of their will be very offended sometimes when they do not practice their beliefs and it might result in arguments among couples because that.
Some Christians because they love their partner so much, would even leave the faith and not believe in Christ anymore just for their partner which is not right in the eyes of God.
It is sad, as a minister to see this but that’s the reality we see happening today when Christian choose to compromise their faith in Christ and favor what they desire for themselves.
Pray You Make The Wise Correct Choice
The Bible position on this question is a sure “No” to allow marriages with unbelievers but it’s up to individual Christians how they treat their faith in Jesus is to make that decision to stay in that relationship or leave.
Now that you know the biblical answer to this question, I pray you will make the wise and uneasy choices in your life and ask yourself this serious question before you make that choice to stay or leave the relationship.
How seriously do you take your faith in Christ? Are you willing to compromise for Christ or choose to stay faithful and pray God will lead someone of the same beliefs as you.